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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think its an intro art/extrovert thing it is more like a user/non-user or boundary pusher/normal type person things. A user or a boundary pusher is always pushing to get something. They really prey upon people feeling obligated or worn down and giving in to their requests. Its very important to these types to defend their right to constantly request things as "just a question" because that's their method to get what they want.

People really do not get offended by normal requests even if they say no to the request. If someone is getting offended by your request, then you really have not read the room and overstepped your boundaries with that person. [/quote]

You've worded this very well.

Normally I don't mind being asked. But I have a friend who ALWAYS has to push the boundaries by asking for things. Its draining. I used to think she was just clueless. Now, I think she's  narcissistic and manipulative.

My friend's boundary pushing "asks" have caused me to always make sure I assess situations accurately before asking for things (do I ask this person for favors too often? Is it something I'd do for them? Will it affect them in ways I'm not thinking of?) [/quote]

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