Reply to Casual relationships and STDs

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Casual relationships and STDs"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm soon to be divorced, and I wonder about all this too.  I dont know anyone who uses protection for oral!  And yet it's the only way to be safe.  But it also takes all the fun and sensation out of it, so then what's the point.  I'm so confused.  I feel like the "get tested every week!  wear condoms!" people have never actually had casual sex? [/quote]

how old are you and for how long were you married?

I use condoms for oral. Flavored. Why wouldnt I? I do it to help protect against STDs. [/quote]

I'm 39, been with my soon to be ex since we were teens, only been with one other guy, so never had to deal with this...AND I'M TERRIFIED.

But as the PPs have expressed, what is even the fun of having sex if you can't feel it and you have to pause to set up your vaginal saran wrap tent?  part of the experience is the taste and smell.

I'm not arguing that there's any other way to be safe!  Don't get me wrong. I just don't think any of the people I know who date tons and have sex on date 3-5 are using condoms for oral or getting STD tests.  Hence my confusion and apprehension.[/quote]

First of all, you should get the HPV vaccine. You’re a good candidate for it since you haven’t had sex with someone different in decades. Or may be only one other person I can’t tell from your post.

Second, well, if you wanna put yourself at risk for STDs, then don’t use protection  and don’t get STD testing first. How do you know what other people do? Do you have tons of single girlfriends have been navigating the dating world for two decades? Or are all your friends married people? It’s really normal to get std before having sex with a new partner and then still use condoms. Not getting STD testing and then also not using condoms is a really stupid thing to do. Also, plenty of people Date for longer than 3 to 5 dates before they have sex. If you wanna keep having unprotected sex without getting STD testing, stay married.[/quote]

Ironically, I'm divorcing DH because he gave me an STI.

I think the disconnect here is quick casual hookups versus longer-term relationships.  I've only had the latter.  And hopefully I'll have another someday.  But I might just want some fun NSA sex in the meantime...but dental dams and condoms in my mouth don't sound fun.

So, OP, my takeaway is you can have safe unsatisfying hookups or you can have unsafe fun hookups. :/[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics