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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Feel sad for a few days and then move on. Maybe you were blessed with a daughter to help you work through your issues with women.  Often women that do not get along with other women have some internal issues. Hopefully your daughter will motivate you to work through those. [/quote]
I agree. The need of OP to tear down her mom so much and take the side of men, is reminsicent of how men make women sound "crazy," irrational and how women are the worst enforcers of patriarchy there can be. Women ought to stick together, and not side with men. The reason some women are not the most pleasant, in some cases, not all, is that they had to put up with people like OP who rather suck up to men, instead of realizing that perhaps her mom had problems bcs she might have been labled as difficult by men who are jerks. This all sounds like OP is holding her mom to an impossible standard, while men are great because OP and our society has basically much lower expectations of men. What did men in your life do OP that your mom did not? What caused you to put men on a pedestal?[/quote]

OP here. Please don’t turn this into some patriarchy bs. I did not need to hold my mom to a standard because she set that standard for herself. She was a terrible mother and that was not because of me. My mom left me and my siblings when I was 4 to have a family with another man. My dad was an alcoholic and abusive and she left us there while she had a guy with lots of money and had a new baby. The only time she ever came around was once in a while with a Christmas present or to buy us a pair of cheap shoes. We eventually went to live with her and she treated her new child much better than us. She could never do anything wrong but we were constantly physically and mentally abused. When I didn’t have my first boyfriend until I was 20 because of sexual abuse as a child, she told my entire family I was a lesbian. This is some of the many reasons I do not have a good relationship with her. [/quote]
And yet, here you are disliking you unborn baby girl bcs she is a GIRL! You are messed up, and you are already messing up your dd's life. Your first thought upon hearing you are having a girl is about you hating your mom and hence the idea of having a daughter. Honestly, you are unfit to be a mother to any child! Deal with you crap first, so you can be a fit mother. How does your unborn daughter have anything to do with your hate for your mom? But, she does, as you clearly show with your line of thinking. You hate your mom, with reason, but what is your reason for hating all women? How do you justify your dad leaving you with your abusive mom, yet forgiving him and think men are more your cup of tea? You are an utter patriarchal enforcer! Why are you not tearing down your dad here? He was abusive and an alcoholic, so ask yourself, why are you besties with men? Instead of hating them too? What a hypocrite! Bcs mom is a "girl" and she should do better? Why were you not having same exact feeling when you had a boy? Moms must be saints, but daddy can be an abusive drunk and that made you be besties with men! What utter patriarchal crap, my dear![/quote]

OP here. I don’t hate my child. I’m actually a great mother to my son and I will be a great mother to my daughter. I never said my father was a great guy. I actually don’t have a relationship with him either. I have forgiven both of them but I do not have a good relation with either of them. Born were abusive drug addicts.

I’m not even going to respond to your other stupid remarks. You’re clearly way too invested and have anger issues. You really need therapy. You don’t sound mentally sane.

You seriously need therapy. You’re a man hating woman and it shows. I hope you don’t have sons because you clearly think all men are evil. I guess every woman who is disappointed at first about having a boy is a feminist who hates men. [/quote]

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