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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]No eating out. No vacations. No activities for your kids. No splurges. No new clothes. No going to the movies. No replacing things that get broken that aren't necessities. No upgrading phones. No streaming services.
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This is how I grew up.  Nice house.  Nothing else.  It also means extreme stress in every recession or downturn.  Even as a kid, I constantly worried that we'd end up homeless because there was no padding.  It was our really nice house or, if my dad lost his job, our car.[/quote]

As a a kid, why were you burdened with the knowledge of your parents' finances? My kids are completely unaware of our financial situation. [/quote]

NP.  I prefer my kids don’t think or worry about money, but, I’ve made them aware by saying things “no, that too much money. Let’s get the less expensive one.”  Or, they’d want to go someone nice, and I’d say, “no, that’s out of our budget.” Or they wished we had a nicer house, and I’d say, “well this is what we can afford.”  Now my older one has a really weird relationship with money.  Lots of anxiety over it, even though I never have anxiety. I’m just straightforward and honest when she pushes me on something. In an ideal world, kids never worry about it, but that’s just unrealistic I think. Unless you make up fibs for them. [/quote]

I guess I am just of the mindset that children should be shielded, at all cost, from the bad decisions of their parents. If mom and dad made bad decisions with finances, sharing the information and having anxious kids as a result is yet another bad decision. There is nothing wrong with telling your kids "no" but the kids having specific knowledge and angst over finances is poor parenting. [/quote]

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