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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I married at 22.  I knew who I was, I was educated and didn't have to commit to being poor.  My husband was 25.  Instead of having a big wedding we used the money for a downpayment on a house.  We both had good careers.  He was and still is my best friend.  Our marriage has been relatively easy.  The biggest hurdles was making career moves to different cities, and an unexpected illness, but overall our marriage has been 95% happy/non-conflict.   We were very mature, responsible, and committed to each other.   I wouldn't change a thing.

We are still happily married, in our mid-40s, and have three teenagers. One starts his first day of college classes today.  If he meets the right person and together they are able to provide and create a life together, then I'm fine with him marrying at 22.  [/quote]
How do You have money for a down payment at 22? Your parents must have helped you.

Most 22 year olds don't. [/quote]

Our parents didn't help us.  We had a small amount of money saved, and used it.  We were planning a wedding, but thought wasting that amount of money was ridiculous.  My MIL is actually still mad we didn't have a big family wedding.  We both started working at 14 and have always saved.  It wasn't a DCUM downpayment, but it covered 10%.  Seller paid closing costs.[/quote]

Similar story here! Married at 21 (me) and 24 (him), bought our first house when I was 22, because we skipped rings and a wedding and lived like poor students (mattress on the floor, hand-me-down lawn furniture and over turned cardboard box for living room furniture, beater of a car we barely kept limping along, budgeted for one "fancy meal" a month - steak subs!). 
Had our first kid when I was 31. Married now for almost 30 years. Our parents didn't help us because they were horrified we were making such a terrible mistake, and didn't want to encourage us.

I'd rather my children wait until they're older than 21 to marry, simply because they're on a more typical educational path. I'd graduated from college at 20, both of them won't graduate until 21. I think having a bit of time to realize you're an adult is helpful before figuring it out with someone else. However, I also think it was easier for us to adapt to each other because we were both relatively young. The compromises required to live with someone can be big, even when they seem small. (TV in the bedroom, is laundry folded or left in laundry baskets, meals at regular times?)

And yes, my dad still complains I didn't give him the "big wedding" that I was supposed to as his only daughter. I've told him he can renew his vows with my mom (they're still married). But nope, apparently your daughter's wedding is different.[/quote]

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