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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have [b]2 kids under 7 and things are not rosy with my DH, it is hard[/b], I get it, but I would never have imagined divorce when kids were even younger. It seems like such a gamble, exhausting, you know you need to be a team, our couple was indeed not doing great but we didn’t have time to focus on one another so I would not have taken a radical decision at that moment.

Why do you think people (or why did you) decide to divorce when kids are still toddlers ? You thought you finally saw who your DW or DH really was? He/she was such a jerk than being on your own seemed easier ? Tell me?

Question is prompted by a friend who just texted me that she is going to divorce, I am a bit blindsided. I want to pickup phone and say “DONT it is tough now but it will get better, as a principle don’t get divorce during those tough early [b]years, it WILL get bette[/b]r“. But I’d love more perspective before I call her. (Will check but I am 99% sure there is no abuse or serious behavior/financial reasons, probably newly discovered incompatibility)[/quote]

You no longer have all kids under 3 and it hasn’t gotten better for you so why are you so sure it would get better for her? Maybe you are just delaying the inevitable and she isn’t? Maybe she’s actually doing the smarter thing for all involved.[/quote]

oh no, it has gotten way better for me and we are working to keep improving (therapy for the past year, we wouldnt even have had the mindspace for therapy before). And I agree with everyone saying i just need to listen and i have no clue what is going on. I appreciate the advice and will def follow it.

My DH and i don't have any major issues. It just felt blah, disconnected, we both felt unappreciated and overwhelmed by requirements. What i would call the usual. But to the point that you could still wonder "why stay married to that grumpy partner i dont connect with". And it takes work to get out of this[/quote]

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