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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm pregnant with my first child at 38. I didn't meet my husband until I was 35. We are both very excited but I do feel discouraged when I see posts bashing older moms. I think many would agree that it would have been wonderful to have children soon but I was not willing to have a child with someone I wasn't sure about. I waited until I found a man who is a wonderful husband and who will be a great father. That was more important to me than having kids at a young age. We are also older and won't feel like we are missing out on anything as young parents ( two of my siblings were teen parents) and we are financially stable. We have the ability to pay for any form of childcare or for meet quit my job and stay at home while we have kids. We won't have the same stresses we would have had if we had met 10 years earlier. I do know I may not have as much energy as I did when I was younger but I feel the benefits outweigh the disadvantages. Any other older FTM parents feel this way? [/quote]

I haven’t read other responses but here it is: I was a “geriatric” mother. I had been with DH for 12 years when we had DD.

I feel the same way you do, and if I know *I* am a better mother at this age than I would have been younger.

That said.. you sound like you’re overcompensating and defensive about being an older mother. People bash old moms, people bash yong moms. People bash moms of singletons, people bash moms of what they perceive as herds. They will bash the breast feeders, the formula feeders, the SAH and the working moms.

Make your decisions for you, and understand everyone else is doing the same thing, and don’t judge them for that. You’re already coming across as “my way is better”, and let me tell you: motherhood is going to humble you out of that somehow. [/quote]

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