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[quote=Anonymous]Ugh, our society makes such a big deal of brides and pregnant people and new graduates and new homeowners. And it's hard when everyone around you is in one of these *special* categories, garnering attention and posting photos of social media and accepting congratulations and accolades for their accomplishments.

But once your wedding is over, you're not a bride anymore. Once your baby is born, you're no longer the soon-to-be first time parent. Your new house becomes just your house. Your degree is just a line on your resume. The celebrating ends, the congratulations end, and you're still alive somehow and you have to live your real life.

The good thing for your daughter is that she can live her real life, right now. Will everyone she knows show up to celebrate it on a Saturday night, or send her gifts, or offer her congratulations on Facebook. Nope. But it can be just as good and fulfilling as living in a house with a five-year-old and the man you've been married to for seven years and still love but also get annoyed by more than you would hope.

Is your daughter sad to be alone, or sad not to be the center of attention? That's not a slight by the way. It sucks to be the one friend in a group who isn't being celebrated or congratulated.

My advice is to find a way to make your daughter the center of your attention for a bit. Make a big deal of her birthday. Buy her something nice for her home. Tell her that you are proud of what a lovely young woman she's become. Tell her you enjoy spending time with her. Remind her that she is worthwhile, not because of some special event that is happening in her life right now, but because she is her.

That way, when your daughter does have her moment in the spotlight, she won't be devastated when it ends. Which it will.[/quote]

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