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[quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thanks to all who shared thoughtful comments and constructive suggestions. Several other posters seem to have missed my original comment that I am NOT going to make any comments about her weight gain or try to intervene with unsolicited weight-loss “help”. 
Others criticized me for not minding my own business and for making this about me. You’ve also missed the point: I care about her and want her to live a life that is not encumbered by    Health problems that can just worsen. Wanting to help, but knowing there’s a limited amount I can do, is frustrating hence my interest in suggestions.
I like the suggestion to keep in touch and in general ask what she is up to. I also like the idea of suggesting that she put herself first—which can only come across as a non-intrusive suggestion if I’m really listening to her and hear any thought from her end about her being stressed etc. 
just to clarify, she has not had a lifelong battle with her weight and she hasn’t had a lifelong unhealthy relationship with food. She was a healthy weight until her early 30s. However, I appreciate the comment from a PP about how much a struggle it is to lose weight. I imagine that it’s hard to stay active and have enough energy to burn more calories, and hard to cook healthy meals all the time if there is a busy household. [/quote]

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