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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My much-older cousin emailed me asking if my husband and I could be listed as guardians of her son should anything happen to her. 
She is 70; her husband is 60, so it's not out of the realm of possibility.
We would be [b]secondary guardians[/b]; she asked family friends to be first in line.
Son is 16, and she says he'd only need a guardian until 18. So it's only two years that we could possibly be on the line.

I want to say yes but also feel - like it's a lot. The son has some behavioral issues. We also have two young kids and aging parents ourselves. But I do not want to let her down. WWYD? If we said no, how would we frame it? I like her very much.[/quote]

So you are not even primary guardians and the kid is 16?  If you say no do you not realize that you will harm your relationship?  Personally I would say yes because you are the back up!  But, if you say no there isn't any real way to put a nice spin on it.  Just be prepared for cousin to be hurt.[/quote]

This. In these situations, the parents are trying to find someone to care for their orphaned child who is alone in the world. There's no good way to say sorry but I won't step in. It will hurt your relationship. Plus, wouldn't you really step in if this kid - your relative -  is truly alone in the world?[/quote]

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