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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's a big difference between 3 kids vs 4-5+ kids- not only in terms of material resources but also parental attention. More importantly, the larger the number of children, the higher the potential that the oldest kids become second parents to the youngest kids. I'm the oldest and female of 6 kids. No surprise, I ended up helping my parents a lot with my younger siblings. By their own admission, they couldn't have done it without me (not a good thing, btw).

I have a peer relationship with siblings 2-3 and a parental relationship with siblings 4-6.

I had one child late in life (40s). Sibling 2 doesn't have bio children but he does have 2 step children (he came into their lives when they were in ms). Sibling 3 has 2 kids (different marriages). Siblings 4 has 2 kids (she wanted more but spouse was adamant about stopping at 2). Siblings 5 and 6 both have 4 children. Not surprisingly, the siblings who never had to deal with being pseudo parents end up having the most kids.

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I'm the immediate pp who had the crappy childhood. I am also a dreaded 'oldest female child' and did a lot of pseudo parenting. I still wanted and got myself a big family (though not 4). I think people who generalize this kind of stuff are misguided. Every individual human is different and can respond to similar situations in vastly different ways. [/quote]

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