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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
That goes well beyond NPD.

Your mother is very sick. If anyone can accompany her to her doctor and get her to explain this to the doctor, and get evaluated and put on meds, that would be great.

Make sure she doesn't have access to weapons or anyone else's finances apart from her own.

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I have tried to intervene in her care precisely twice, and will never do it again. She will act like she needs help because she is confused. She told the doctor’s office that she kept forgetting about appointments and couldn’t get herself there. She was in her late 50s at the time. The reality was that she knew the doctor told her she needed surgery, and she didn’t want to have it. She’s afraid of hospitals stays due to trauma early in life. When the nurse called to explain, I told her my mother was just trying to avoid the needed care, and it was clear the nurse thought I was a terrible, uncaring child. The truth is that I had spoken to my mom many times about what was needed, and every conversation ended with her blaming all the doctors and nurses for being idiots who were using her to make a buck. She manipulated them very effectively. Another time, she had convinced me that she was improving herself with therapy. She said family therapy would help our communication. I was in my 20s, and more gullible back then. She had convinced the therapist that my sister and I were abusing her and trying to ruin her marriage. The therapist did not believe me when I tried to explain the situation. She basically weaponized the therapist. This is common in people with personality disorders.

I appreciate your comment, PP. what you’re suggesting is rational and normal. I’m just not dealing with rational or normal. [/quote]

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