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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is this thing called a pandemic. Remember when people freaked out about Zika? That was junk science. This? Is real and a threat to Moms and babies. [/quote]

Off topic slightly, but Zika was not at all junk science. What on earth are you talking about? Haven't you read about and seen pictures of the microcephalic babies? Babies with congenital Zika syndrome have profound development delays, epilepsy, cardiomyopathy, dysphagia, and more.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5795516/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7201309/

What the outcome might be for prenatal infection with covid-19 is up in the air although there have been cases of in utero transmission. Personally I would not want to risk it.

More generally, OP, I'll be 52 in a couple of months and my youngest is 12. She wasn't quite planned. While I'm super happy she is part of our family, the fatigue factor of being older parents is real, at least in our experience. Also -- the teenage years have been emotionally exhausting, even though all three are great kids. Our middle child, who was an awesome elementary school aged kid, extroverted, happy, seemingly bulletproof. She is now struggling with anxiety and depression to the point she was hospitalized for two weeks at the start of the lockdown for suicidal ideation, and is still in a partial hospitalization program. Our oldest had some ADHD-type issues that were a struggle to diagnose and figure out appropriate interventions for. And overall we are facing twelve straight years of kids in college, with two years of two overlapping kids, which is quite the financial challenge. This is all to say -- your kids are young, and in many ways these are likely the easy years if you have kids without physical or emotional or learning challenges. You can't assume it's always going to be that way, and you have to think ahead to your future self and what you and your spouse are equipped for.

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Thank you for your helpful reply. I am so sorry about your middle child, I hope that she gets better soon. How stressful to have to go through this.[/quote]

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