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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Fundamentally, I'm too lazy to tiger parent my kids.  I am white and have a degree from HLS (no hooks).  Hopefully they will be good testers like me.  If not, plenty of state schools offer a fine education.

My parents both grew up poor so that helps me keep perspective. Most of my many cousins are some gradation of middle or working class.

Middle class is fine.  Working class involves a lot of dumb choices and forced interaction with people that aren't that bright and so that sucks.  But that's an issue of character building and we do work on that.  But forced early morning violin lessons?  Sounds like pretty sucky QOL unless you both really love the violin.[/quote]

Same here- lazy Harvard and Yale grad here who tests well. I will say I wish my parents had done more to instill the value of hard work, but I did get there eventually on my own once I found a career I cared about. I hope my children are self-motivated and curious but I’m not sure I’ll force them to work crazy hard if they’re not. They’re young still.

I sorta disagree with “middle class is fine”. My life is way better as an economically well-off person than the alternative and I know this from what my parents and other relatives went through.  And being able to support not only my own family but my extended family to some extent is rewarding and gives my life purpose and meaning.  So, I will do what I can to impart these values on my kids.  Now, could I be hustling much harder to be a tech or finance gazillionaire? Sure, but that level of wealth doesn’t appeal to me enough to make the relevant life decisions it would entail. I also don’t want my kids to glorify wealth and will not push them into the relentless pursuit of it. [/quote]

Another HYP person who tests well, grew up suburban MC with public schools, is now probably what this board would call UMC (probably never, ever going to be upper though, like my brother who works in Silicon Valley and was an early employee at one of the valley firms).  Like both of you, I'm probably just too lazy to do that level of tiger parenting that Chua describes.
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