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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] You can't control her.  You can only control your response to her.  Figure out what your hot buttons are with her and then figure out what you're going to do/say when she hits the button.

It is all behavioral training.  She is getting something from the interaction and basically you are feeding her a reward when you engage.  So you need to learn how not to engage.  She will escalate when you don't respond to her bait.

In a nutshell, you need to think of it as a long distance walk going from 0 to 100 miles.  She will escalate from 0 to 60-75 if she doesn't get a response.  If you can make it successfully to 60-75 without engaging and rewarding her then she begin to taper from 75 to 100 when she will eventually extinguish the behavior.  That is if you do NOT respond.  But the second you respond...not only do you zoom back to 0 but you probably enter into the -100s.

You are gong to have to work very hard at not engaging so develop some healthy coping mechanisms.  Long walks, undesirable chores, etc, all may help.  You need to keep reminding yourself that you cannot control her, you can only control how you respond to her.[/quote]

So smart.  I completely agree.  It's just like training a dog.  Haha.

Also headphones/music will be most helpful.[/quote]

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