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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As described in Amy Chua's Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. I'm sure this was also discussed back in 2011, but wanted to read the perspectives of new posters.

Personally, I agreed with the emphasis on building work ethic but found a lot of what she described in the book unnecessary (making kids practice instruments for hours, calling her daughter "garbage"). Chua's daughters have both been academically successful--one graduated from Yale Law and the other is at Harvard Law. But many kids who don't have tiger parents are also successful. [/quote]

Np   To me, "Tiger parenting" is all about having a baby and not seeing the baby as an individual person with their own talents, needs and wants.  It is all about YOU and how the child will fulfill your desire.  You mold and or crush the child's spirit and let them know that if they don't achieve the highest level than you will withhold love from them.  [b]Who cares if they have talent in acting or painting[/b]?  My community will think more highly of ME if my son/daughter goes to Harvard and becomes a doctor!  Who cares if they are miserable and want to kill themselves?  It is all about ME, ME, ME![/quote]

Maybe some parents are like this but I don't wants my kids to have a successful academic life because I want bragging rights. I am preparing them to a competitive market, what they choose to do after will be up to them.

My daughter LOVES art - drawing more specifically. While I nurture her love of art by buying plenty of quality supplies and paying for classes, I am very clear that the majority of artists do not make much money and struggle financially. For every successful artist out there who works at Pixar for example, there are thousands struggling A LOT. [b]I make it clear to her that we are not rich and she won't have a trust fund to rely on[/b], and if she chooses this career path, she will probably have a very limited life. It is all about choices.

She excels academically and I push it hard. I make sacrifices to pay for writing/LA and math/stem programs and although I get some pushback from her, I don't care. I feel I am doing my job as a parent to prepare her and once she is an adult, she can choose her own path in life.[/quote]

If you aren’t rich, why should she listen to you? Clearly your choices didn’t work out well.[/quote]

Oooh I wish I knew you in real life, PP. I like your style![/quote]

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