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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, just say no.  They can’t force you to help (although they’ll be entitled to their own feelings about it).

Realistically, even if your MIL went there to help, she’d need other people to give her a break once in a while because caregiver fatigue is very real.  So even if she moved there, there would still be a schedule for others to help out too.[/quote]

Why does she need a break?

SIL is OK. She’s not on her death bed.
She just needs rides to the hospital and back and gets tired after procedures. Between that she still works and does stuff.[/quote]

This statement makes me think you have no idea what really caregiving entails. It’s exhausting and depressing and hard. And you sound fully unappreciative of the effort she has already made, which was likely exhausting for her because she’s old and stuff like being out of your own space is hard on older people, in addition to the caretaking element. If you can’t help, don’t. But don’t volunteer other people’s time or judge them for giving only what they think they can. Which is exactly what you are doing. [/quote]+1. Caregiving for a sick parent or child is exhausting mentally and usually physically.  BTDT [/quote]

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