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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What’s with the histrionics about telling OP to switch hospitals? For a term baby, no less, who was about to ge discharged. OP is looking for reassurances and sharing your own bad Sibley experience is completely unhelpful. So is telling her to switch hospitals. The person she needs to be speaking with is the neonatologist (note that the Sibley neonatologists also work at Georgetown, which is a level 4 NICU, so if a transfer was needed they would have done that).

OP I know it’s scary but you need to get more information from the neonatologist. Be a mama bear. Ask the questions you came on here to ask. If you don’t feel reassured or better, tell them. If you want a second opinion, ask. If you’re worried about taking him home, ask what you can do if this happens at home. Talk with the nurses and get their thoughts about his condition and what they think. Don’t hesitate to advocate for your child. I know it is scary and intimidating for your child
To be in the NICU but the doctors and nurses caring for your baby are the people best equipped to help you.[/quote]

This (repeated) poster who is gas lighting everyone is a nicu doctor or sibley lover. lol.[/quote]

No, I’m not. I’m recognizing that on the other side of this post is a super anxious new mom and some of you guys are just feeding into that with completely unhelpful and over the top suggestions that are not realistic and are based on your own bad experiences. You don’t know the details of her baby’s health so telling her, oh just discharge immediately and take baby to Children’s is utterly unhelpful. She has to navigate the situation where she is before she can even determine that. You have no idea if she would get better or different care anywhere else. You have no idea if a hospital would even admit the baby. It’s possible she just needs some reassurance and greater information from the doctors and nurses. It’s possible her baby will be discharged shortly. It’s possible a doctor elsewhere would do the same thing. This is a super stressful situation to navigate and you don’t realize that  saying things like, do not leave your baby at Sibley are gonna freak her out and cause even more anxiety. OP needs support in being an advocate for her kid. She needs to not just sit back and trust the doctors but that also doesn’t mean she can just run away from the present hospital her child is in. Not sure how that makes me a Sibley lover, but I am someone who recognizes that poor care happens everywhere and the best antidote you have to that is to be a good advocate for your child and that means talking to doctors, nurses, asking for second opinions, etc. which can be very uncomfortable for some people. Maybe a transfer is necessary but I am doubtful based on what she has shared, since other posters are saying decelerations can be normal. [/quote]

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