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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had an affair that lasted a little over 2 years, and it ended what will be 3 years this coming October.  We only saw each other about once a month or so, and it had faded quite a bit towards the end.  Married 16 years, 2 kids.  Spouse doesn't know.  We discussed going to therapy for an issue spouse has, and I question whether I should disclose this, but most of the advice I read says no, to take it to the grave.

I know the consensus on here is a spouse has a right to know, but is that still true if the affair is over?[/quote]

No one ever mentions the impact on the kids. You have 2 of them. How would it affect your relationship with them if they knew that you’re a lying cheater who stepped out on the marriage?

Your affair doesn’t just involve you and your spouse.[b] It impacts the families of both partners. [/b]

Your spouse deserves to know the truth but that will hurt a lot of people. It seems like you should have thought about that before you cheated.

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So true.  My spouse took responsibility for pain of other family.  His AP was a c@nt tat took zero blame and used the “it would just be somebody else. I was in a bad place” tactic.  Zero responsibility for hurting other kids/wife.  C@nt.  My spouse’s reaction was sincere apology to other spouse.[/quote]

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