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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. I really appreciate all the responses and so much of it rings true. I have brought up ADHD to my DH in the past as he has difficulty finishing tasks around the house. This has been especially apparent when tools are involved as many have been misplaced, parts to things he’s taken apart get misplaced, etc as he just moves on to the next thing without fully cleaning his space. I brought it up again last night, and he got really angry and said it’s much more likely he has early dementia. I pointed out the things in the thread that he does - hello person leaving a suitcase and stepping over it for weeks! I pointed out that I do block stairs with things I have asked him to carry up or down. It’s like he doesn’t see them. He then blamed me for the unfinished tasks as I am always asking him to do things so he’s just moving on to the next thing so never finishes the first (this is, btw, not accurate). We have 3 kids that I do all the things for all day long without asking anything of him. I cook meals, I clean, I manage doctor & therapist appointments for all 5 of us (no small task as we have a son with a brain malformation). I might ask him to do one big task around the house once a month, and one small task (like the trash or carry vacuum cleaner/laundry/suitcase) once a week.
It’s difficult to not feel resentful if I just do the things myself, but I do try not to ask him unless I really need his help. His bathroom trash I am not picking up off the floor. And the lightbulbs... I am only 4’8” and there isn’t anything upstairs I could stand on to reach the light fixtures.[/quote]

He might have Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. Very common sense in people with ADHD.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-adhd-symptom-test/amp/[/quote]

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