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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't tell if you're male or female. I'm female, and here's what I learned dating post-divorce:

1. If you mention that you're newly divorced in text/app messages/phone/etc, a LOT of people will pass on you.

2. If you wait until an actual date, people don't care. When I stopped blabbing on dating apps and waited until we had actually met, nobody cared even when I was only separated. But, that means you have to be strict about setting up an actual date quickly, rather than texting forever.

Same with kids. Don't mention them beforehand, wait until an actual date.
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Oooh, maybe men don’t care about this so much from their end, but as a woman: NEVER date someone who is only (and yes, I say only, sorry) separated. I met so many men online who would list “divorced” on their profile and yet they were not yet divorced and in some cases so very entangled or even still living with their “ex” and had all variety of excuses.

Really, you cannot blame people (male or female, doesn’t matter!) for being wary of anyone’s situation when it involves separation and/or divorce. I bet you there are so many others who have been similarly burned like me. [/quote]

And also PP, if you waited until a date to tell a man that you are separated but yet presented yourself as divorced or truly single before meeting up, that’s deceitful and I wouldn’t speak to you again. Maybe they “didn’t care” because they just wanted a fling, but no way am I giving someone a chance who can’t even tell me something that basic before meeting up.

In most of this area there is no legal separation, so if you are not yet divorced you are still married. [/quote]

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