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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kind of agree with PP -- say "my marriage ended 3 years ago" -- don't lie and say you've been divorced 3 years. Lying is bad mmkay.[/quote]

Ha, my marriage actually ended in a December 2015, but I sure don’t want to get into that right away.  :)

Other PP, I put “only” in quotes because other people seem to think one year isn’t long enough.[/quote]

As someone who is divorced and dates divorced people - the fact that you have an exact date things ended (sounds like there was an incident?) and that you “don’t want to get into it” would be a red flag for me. That indicates you’re not totally over it. Do you tell them anything else about your divorce?[/quote]

Do I really have to tell someone in the initial text chats that I found out about infidelity in December 2015? That would make it seem like I’m still in a rage about it, and really, I’m not. All I think I need to say about the divorce initially is, yes I am legally divorced, and we are amicable 50/50 coparents who don’t talk about anything other than kid logistics.[/quote]

No, but the fact that you have kids 50/50 and are looking for a LTR might be off putting to someone who isn't ready to introduce a partner to their children, or who doesn't know if they want to be a step-parent.

It's OK that you don't want a fling, but you might want to move more slowly on looking for a LTR because your kids may not be ready to meet a new partner after the divorce was only final for a year. And, its hard to keep a partner away from your kids for more than 6 months or so.[/quote]

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