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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kind of agree with PP -- say "my marriage ended 3 years ago" -- don't lie and say you've been divorced 3 years. Lying is bad mmkay.[/quote]

Ha, my marriage actually ended in a December 2015, but I sure don’t want to get into that right away.  :)

Other PP, I put “only” in quotes because other people seem to think one year isn’t long enough.[/quote]

As someone who is divorced and dates divorced people - the fact that you have an exact date things ended (sounds like there was an incident?) and that you “don’t want to get into it” would be a red flag for me. That indicates you’re not totally over it. Do you tell them anything else about your divorce?[/quote]

Do I really have to tell someone in the initial text chats that I found out about infidelity in December 2015? That would make it seem like I’m still in a rage about it, and really, I’m not. All I think I need to say about the divorce initially is, yes I am legally divorced, and we are amicable 50/50 coparents who don’t talk about anything other than kid logistics.[/quote]

You should be willing to be very transparent about the dates of separation, divorce, and when you started living in different places. I ask those direct questions before meeting divorced guys. [b]If a guy was evasive I’d not go out with him[/b].[/quote]

This.  It's not really about the length of time, it's about him being forthright about it.  To me, "separated" and "marriage ended" means the date you starting living in different homes and stopped having any physical touching.  Both of those things.  If "separated" or "marriage ended" to you means the date that you decided you want out, but you kept on living with her and having sex for two more years, it will seem like you're disingenuously trying to overstate the length of time.[/quote]

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