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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m leaving the program because I refuse to keep trying to win a losing battle with  a mother who keeps putting up obstacles for me. Her mom asked for my help getting her last jobless heroin addict live-in boyfriend out and I did. Which was months of a stressful s***show getting my friends/police involved, getting her legal paperwork needed, court dates, her sending pics of vandalism/destruction, text threats of burning her house down after he got eviction notice!  
   
   I know I don’t have a chance in hell making a difference in this child’s life now. Getting her to college and keeping her from getting pregnant by the time she’s 16 has been my #1 goal. But I also need to take care of my safety and my family. I’m extremely uncomfortable with the fact that this new family member and his crowd/lifestyle will end up at my home whether it’s dropping her off, bday parties I give her etc.   Like my parents said, “you can rescue 3 sweet pit bulls and hope none will ever hurt your child but is that a risk you should take? Live by the odds not your heart”.   I know 100%  if I posted on here I was a victim of a crime given these circumstances everyone would jump down my throat and blame me!   “What were you thinking would happen, you’re not very bright lady, you deserved it for being so ignorant” etc....    I would not have one person feel sorry for me and would be complete victim blame! [/quote]

OP, I understand your feelings and agree that your safety is the primary concern. I just ask one thing - if you do drop out of this program and situation with this young lady, please let her know why. Do not abandon her completely. I would let her know that the day she turns 18, she can contact you and you will still be there for her.[/quote]

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