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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please don't let the older one bully and manipulate the younger one.  It causes lifelong damage to the little one, as a pp shared.  Sometime in our early 30s my older sister realized how cruel she'd been to me when we were little kids and actually apologized to me.  It meant a lot to know that she finally realized how evil she was.  I have mentioned my mom's lack of help throughout my childhood to my mom a few times, and she denies that she ever let my sister be mean to me, which makes no sense since my sister already had admitted it.

Basically, don't ignore it.  If you wouldn't let your kid to that to the neighbor or a classmate, don't let them do it to their sibling. And don't do the false equivalency "nobody gets to play with it" BS if one of the kids is just victimizing a less powerful sibling.   Nine times out of ten it's the oldest child that does the mean stuff. By taking away toys/equipment from everyone, you're basically just assisting the bully in hurting the smaller kid, especially since the oldest one doesn't even really want to play with the toy.[/quote]

I’m glad I’m not your oldest child.  That’s a lot of baggage.  [/quote]

+1 wow that’s some serious baggage.  9 times out of 10 it’s the oldest child? Do you study sibling relationships or did you just pull that out of your ass?  I’m the oldest, and my little sister was the instigator (backed by my parent’s favoritism).  Not everyone else’s situation is what you experienced as a child.[/quote]

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