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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I cant understand people who say I am not attracted to X people. I can find beautiful, attractive, smart people in any city, any country with any background. There are really hot black men, white men, asian med, indian men, russian men, eastern european mean, south american men, central american man, african men, tall men, short men, muscular men, etc.  I do have a type but I dont limit myself. There have been men that I wasnt very attracted to look-wise but their minds/personality was amazing and vice versa.

So for the people who say you are hard-wired to be attracted to a certain demographic, what do you make of those of us like me?

""What we see as attractive is a byproduct of not only our biological wiring, but is also influenced by socio-cultural factors," says David Sarwerof the Center for Human Appearance at the University of Pennsylvania.Although individual differences in what we consider attractive "are not well-understood," Sarwer says, we are shaped by "what we learn from our parents and peers as well as what we see in the mass media."
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I'm someone who sees both of the debate. I do agree what we see as an attractive is heavily influenced by socio-political factors. But I would say that there's a difference between attractive and attraction. There's an also an innate aspect to attraction that's hard-wired. Yes, there are attractive men in every race and I can recognize that they are attractive. Nonetheless, I don't personally feel attracted to all of them. I feel the strongest attraction for men with dark hair with tan to dark skin.

I can see that Alexandar Skarsgaard is a really good looking person but I don't personally feel any attraction for him.  When I look at someone who looks like Jason Momoa or Aldis Hodge, that's feeling of attraction hits me instantly.

I'm a very visual person so it's basically impossible for me to see past the physical aspect even if other parts of their personality were compatible. There are people who have strong physical preferences.

I also think there are many people who don't have strong physical types to begin with and if not socialized to find x attractive, they would date x, y, z, etc... There are also people for whom the non-physical aspects (i.e. common interests, personality, etc) play a greater role in their attraction to another person so looking past the physical (even if they do have a physical type) isn't a problem.

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