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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That's stupid. I have kids who were born out of wedlock. Their father and I just never felt any desire to get married. So we haven't. Everyone is thriving.

It's 2020. No need for marriage to have a baby.[/quote]

This is what I tell my kids. Be loving and responsible to the kids/mother, if this is the course you choose.[/quote]

Numerous studies have shown that having children out of wedlock means worse outcomes for the children involved.  That statistic isn’t going away anytime soon.[/quote]

I don't think those statistics account for or apply as directly to scenarios where the parents are post-grad educated with high HHI. Statistically it's not ideal for the parents to be unmarried but reality is more nuanced.[/quote]

Of course money makes a difference.  I do however think if you’re in that bracket of people, where marriage is much more typical, it will be even more obvious to the children because all their peers will mostly likely have married parents.[/quote]

Nobody is saying to hide the lack of marriage from the children. If their parents are together but not married, and that's all the kids have ever known, how exactly are the kids even impacted? Their peers won't know. So what is there to be obvious? A lack of wedding pictures? There wouldn't be any of those if the parents eloped or had a courthouse/JOP wedding. Different last names? It's not atypical for women to keep their names or otherwise have different last names from their kids. What exactly do you think is so different about the lives of children of together-but-unmarried parents who are educated with a high HHI? [/quote]

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