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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So many glib replies — I wonder how many respondents have actually had to deal with something like this.

You all need a long-term solution here, because this level of care isn’t sustainable for someone with a family of their own to nurture.[/quote]

I find this funny. [b]Everyone says 'have kids or who else will take care of you!'[/b]. Meanwhile the kids and kids spouses are burning with resentment? Lovely sentiment there.[/quote]

Nobody I know says to have kids so they will take care of you except for my friends family which is from another country. In fact, most experts would tell you that is absolutely not a reason to have kids. The are not little extensions of you meant to serve you. I consider myself fortunate if my kids help me some in old age, but do not expect it. I have saved for retirement and that won't be an issue. I would like to live in a continued care residence where I can move as needed, but that isn't easy to find.

I find the people who say these things are usually the narcissistic aunts and uncles who didn't do the work or people who had easy situations (parent independent until the day she died, parent pleasant and grateful, etc). They are the same people who when you finally convince the parent to go into assisted living, or you do memory care or nursing home they assume you now lead a cushy life when in fact, these places call you with so many problems and loved ones can get kicked out.[/quote]

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