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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I feel you're getting unnecessarily jumped on a lot here. For one, those weirdo posters trying to shame you for saying you feel lucky: probably the same crowd that, if you posted your situation without acknowledging not everyone's in the same position, would be shrieking at you to stop complaining and check your privilege. Pfft.

I also don't get any whiff of this "holier-than-thou" attitude some posters are attributing to you (transference, anyone...?) Like the TV thing, you said it came up because of remote learning, not that you just randomly announce your toddler doesn't watch TV; several posters obviously didn't bother to read that. Anyway, I think it's much more likely that it's what a couple of more sensible PPs have mentioned: everyone's on edge these days and ready to interpret any response as an attack against their own decisions even when nothing at all along those lines have been said. I catch myself doing it. We've had some friends over to meet just outside in the yard a few times and whenever neighbors I know aren't doing that walk by I feel anxious they are judging me, even though they almost certainly aren't! So FWIW I'd recommend sticking to your guns, being as noncommittal as you can when you give regrets to invitations, and giving people grace where possible if they react a bit defensively. And as another poster said, if they're outright jerks about it - you're better off losing them as friends anyway![/quote]

It's not that we can't read, it's that the fact that OP seems to keep having issues with people regarding the choices she's making means either (1) all the people she knows are jerks or (2) she's coming off wrong because of how she's saying things.[/quote]

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