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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here! Thanks for the responses.
My sense is it's a defense mechanism, and it makes it really hard to talk about anything with her when she immediately shifts gears into something superficial; I guess I feel I can't be myself and have to always be "up" as well, or else she completely cannot relate. It's like she can't talk about anything uncomfortable (except that one time). She also posts on Instagram daily about inspirational quotes and sayings. As I said, it doesn't really affect me (except she is also our neighbor, so...we interact a lot); but it would help to understand a bit because sometimes I feel frustrated like she's putting on a show and I don't feel we can really talk. Like if I am having a bad day or something and cry in front of her, I feel like an alien.[/quote]

So keep it light and cordial with her, and when you need to cry or "go deep," call up a trusted girlfriend!

Don't be one of those annoying types who expects to be super close with a relative or an in-law Because Family. Read the room: she doesn't want that relationship with you. That's fine. Keep it light with her and go deep with other friends who actually want that relationship with you. [/quote]

It is OK to want to be close to your in-laws because they are family. It is not annoying. The previous poster tried to be helpful but the skeletons in their closet didn’t let them.[/quote]

No, it is NOT annoying...both parties have to want that closer relationship. She did not marry YOU. Not everyone thinks family or ILs = automatic closeness. Especially when some people are known to gossip, speculate, and judge. Don't be a dog with a bone. Read the room, respect her wishes, MOVE ON. Failing to respect someone's personal boundaries is annoying. LET IT GO.[/quote]

Maybe OP came to the anonymous board NOT to gossip. She asked for strangers to speculate instead of blabbing around to other family. Geez. It's natural to be puzzled, I think...I'd find it weird too.[/quote]

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