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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Places like WalMart, Target, Joanne are always hiring. If her income is low enough, she will qualify for SNAP benefits and Medicaid. Her lifestyle will take a huge hit but she won't be homeless on the street.

If there's no prenup, she will be entitled to at least some spousal support. The courts in most states don't care if she had a thousand affairs. [/quote]

In Virginia, they do.[/quote]

No, VA does not really care.[/quote]

Wrong. I just made absolutely sure my SAH wife who cheated and bled me dry financially for years got no spousal support. We were married 16 years. Had she not had an affair (documented by a private investigator and proven in court), she might have received $4,000 or $5,000 a month per month.

I do pay child support, happily and reliably.

I did catch her telling a friend she was going to fight getting a job to drive THAT up. Judge wasn't impressed. Imputed an income for her of $55,000, since she had a college degree, several certificates and had once been a senior executive at an ad agency.

My lawyer said this is par for the course if you can prove adultery. Even in a no-fault divorce. 
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Yes, that is true that the offending party can be denied spousal support. However, in many cases, if both spouses work, the woman is not getting spousal support anyway. So moot.

Also, if the husband cheats, and he earns more, he is not getting spousal support anyway. And everything I have read says Va courts do not care from that angle and will not punish the husband or higher earning spouse to pay more in spousal support than they would have other wise to punish them. In those cases, it really has no effect.  The offending spouse (cheater) will not pay more spousal support.

[b]The only time someone loses if they are the cheater and don't work or make very little, then yes, they could lose spousal support. But spousal support is not an automatic thing these days. [/b]

Yes, I am divorced. I could not get spousal support as soon as I went back to work. I wanted to leave earlier. My spouse threatened to drive up legal fees on purpose rather than paying any spousal support whatsoever despite me following his career and sacrificing my own career trajectory. He refused to divorce amicably and refused to pay spousal support. I could have insisted, but it would have hurt the kids. There was no cheating--but I read every single thing and consulted 3 attorneys on every aspect of divorce law when I was dealing with this (and it is recent). [/quote]

Yes. If you are the cheater AND the one without a job.  Good luck.  You are screwed- no pun intended.[/quote]

Pp here. And that was my situation.[/quote]

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