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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is no way it will end well. Either he'll be kind to you and full of remorse about what could have been, and it will be painful for you. Or he will be happy and cavalier to have dodged that bullet, and it will be painful for you.

Regardless, the source of your contentment and happiness will not come from him. YOu need to focus on yourself, your husband, your children, and the other parts of your life that are REAL NOW, not made up of memories and fantasies.[/quote]

Or he will be furious that you killed his child, violating his religious beliefs, without talking to him about it.  Resenting the favor you felt you were doing him and blaming him for how your unilateral decision negatively affected your life will not elicit his sympathy.

This is not closure.  This is seeking revenge against him for being happy while your unilateral actions have contributed to your misery.

I am truly sorry for the suffering you've experienced.  However, I think it's important whenever possible to forgive those who have wronged us, for our own sake if not for theirs.  He didn't wrong you.  Please try and forgive him so that you can move on, for your sake.

I think you've had some good suggestions here about writing and burning /discarding a letter to him.  That might be a path toward closure.  I agree with others that if your counselor is recommending you intentionally hurt someone to feel better, you need to find a new counselor.  [/quote]

Let's get this straight, Science says she did not "kill his child"

You are a complete moron. How dare you judge her??? Not your business Pro Choice is exactly what it says it is!!!! Stop being a horrible human being during the pandemic just for five minutes.

OP please call a therapist. Obviously you need  to talk to someone right now. We all on this thread want you emotionally healthy and are thinking good thoughts for you.

Do not contact the man. This was a blip in your life, good bad or indifferent it is in your past and you need help with whatever is bothering you currently.

Please take other posters advice if you need to write a letter burn it. And again please get help. Nothing at all wrong with asking for help.

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