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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seems obvious to me.  He wants more attention.  Negative attention is still attention.  Have you been distracted or focussed more on his siblings?  Have you taken one-on-one time with him just to have fun (not nag)?

I'd at least give it a try...[/quote]

Thank you for this suggestion. With four children, two of them very young and one with ADHD of course my attention is spread thin. I'm going to make a date to take him out for a special mother & son date, maybe a movie of a book we've both read. He and I both read then discuss books or shows we've enjoyed. We also both enjoy talking about politics. I'm going to plan something special and see if it helps a little. In the past taking him out to dinner has been enjoyable but only a short term solution.[/quote]

It sounds like this is a rare event for you two.  The short-time effort may be why you are only getting a short-term solution.  This is something you absolutely need to be doing on a regular basis.  You should have a weekly time set aside for your son (dinner, lunch, brunch...) where you and he do something special for an hour or two.  Make it the same time every week and make sure you honor the commitment, no matter what.  I understand you may think you are too busy, but that is really not an option.  Trust me - I watched my brother go through this and my parents pull away because he was too much of a handful, and the long-term result was very negative.  It was, and still is, very clear to me that all he really needed was positive time with his mommy.  Give it to your son.  Regularly.[/quote]

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