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[quote=Anonymous]OP again,

[quote]I'll be honest - if you have kids in their teens and you get them 50% of the time, that's going to be a big hurdle in dating.

That means every other week you are essentially not available. That may work for some women, especially if they have kids and can coordinate off weeks with yours. Others whose kids are older may not like being restricted to every other week activity. And if you think you will just introduce everyone (her, kids) and make it all one big happy family, think again.

Teens are notorious for not liking parents' new partners, including after a long dating period before they are even introduced. It's just a very difficult time in life for them. Girls may have jealousy issues against your partner, and loyalty binds for their mom which can be problematic.

You also sound like you are in the military or in a military-related field. This may appeal to some women and to others not so much. Especially if you are active duty and the potential for change of station orders comes up. [/quote]

You put your finger on one of my concerns. I have promised myself that I am not going to inflict a "blended family" living situation on my kids. They don't deserve that. However, I believe it is very common for divorced guys to fall hard for the first woman who is nice to them. If that happens, I could see myself rationalizing the Brady Bunch scenario as not so bad, and maybe my new partner would be trying to sell me on it, too. But I have to remain strong!

On similar lines, I have promised myself not to introduce a new partner to the kids unless she's been around for a long time. That's also in my divorce agreement.

I'm not in the military. No change of station or deployment overseas.[/quote]

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