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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love having one kid, and I'm an only and never wished I had brothers or sisters. My kid doesn't either. I know plenty of people who have little to no relationships with their siblings or downright can't stand them. I do not understand the whole "selfish" thing. My friends with two or more kids are always talking about how tired they are--and I am secretly like--no one made you have more than one! One kid gets all of your attention. Money. If they need people to socialize with-they exist. They are called friends. And they get to go home at night! It's also a myth that only children are selfish or not well-adjusted...I mean...not any more or less so than kids with brothers and sisters. I do not regret the decision at all. The ONLY thing that I think is a little harder is caring for parents as they age. Theoretically, if you have multiple kids, they can share this burden. But I've seen plenty of examples of this falling to one child anyway. [/quote]

I have a sibling who always hated me as a kid and resented me being around.  I have very little relationship with her so it made no impact on my life.  If anything, I got so much less as the focus was always on her and her needs/wishes/wants and I was always scapegoated as the three of them always aligned against me.

My child gets all our attention, money and support.  They don't have to worry about sharing time, resources or getting their needs met.  My child isn't selfish, isn't demanding, rarely asks for anything (so when he does we know its something he really wants) and is really thoughtful and caring.  I would have liked two for me, but life didn't work out that way.

My husband is not close to his brother either.  When it came time for sharing the burden of aging parents, the burden fell on me which I gladly did to show my child how a good family should work.  Now, my parents need help but they favored the sibling so they got POA and their exception is I do all the day to day work under her direction and control.  They lied and said it was shared so when she spilled the beans it was not, I pulled out so now they are really lonely and its becoming a huge issue as my sibling will take phone calls but not help.  How you treat your kids, if you have two or more is important if you expect them to care for you.[/quote]

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