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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Infertility is heartbreaking but it is bordering on offensive how those two posts were worded.[/quote]

Agree with this.  I'm sorry, but I take a little issue with somebody stating that infertility is the "worst thing in the world".  There are a hell of a lot of horrible things that happen in this world, and while infertility is awful, it is not the worst thing that could ever happen to you.  We *all* know there are worse things...[/quote]

I would not have put it this way, but I agree with the PPs.

Infertility might be the worst thing that has happened to you. Those last two words are the key: TO YOU. Your friends' pregnancies are not something that is happening to you. You likely did not play much of a role, if any, on their decision to have children, whether that means one child or 11. I think it's important for friends to be sensitive to what each other go through. I would never make flip comments about easy fertility or how hard pregnancy is to a friend who is having conception issues (as I have seen some of my more thoughtless pregnant friends do to other friends). I also don't think it's fair for the friends dealing with infertility to project her issues onto her friends. They are your issues, not mine. [/quote]

Totally agree. I struggled with infertility, and I didn't project my own struggles or deny my friends their happiness. If you are having that much difficulty emotionally, then it's time to seek a therapist. I'm not being flip. It's easy to lose perspective when dealing with a painful situation, and that's what I'm hearing in some of these posts. It's also easy to become obsessed with infertility issues. Any obsession is bad. [/quote]

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