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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Carrying entire days, conversations, ideas, actions, decisions for introverts is indeed exhausting. Most people give up and become mute themselves if forced to be with introverts. Which is fascinatingly awkward for most neurotypicals to be completely silent through most meals and encounters with family members. The kids were about 9 yo when they realized one of their parents never talked much, about anything. [/quote]

This is interesting to me.  I am an introvert DW married to extrovert DH.  I do not feel that my husband has ever had to carry entire days, ideas, actions or decisions for me.  Conversations, yes.  My husband can talk about anything to anyone.  I am more comfortable with silence or deeper conversations, small talk has never been my thing.  I do not believe most introverts are like you described above, i.e. expecting others to make decisions, perform actions or make decisions for them.  I think that I am actually far more focused and goal oriented that my husband who is extremely social.  It is just a difference that he gets his energy from interacting with others and I get my energy from taking time to myself.  [/quote]

Same here.  But I would say that my husband doesn't even have to carry conversations -- I'm perfectly capable of having conversations with other.  It's really about what energizes and drains each of us.

I would say this: I do need more down time than he does.  But it has to be real down time.  If I'm reading a book and the kids keep running in to ask me stuff they could have asked him, or he keeps interrupting, it's not really restorative.  But I suck it up sometimes, too.  I'm more likely to participate in some event if it's really important to him, etc., so he'll tell me if it's a big deal or not.

[b]"Introvert" doesn't mean antisocial or selfish or rude.  It means that people are drained by social activities with big groups, and recharged with time alone.  Just like any other preference or personality difference, compassion and compromise are necessary[/b].  [/quote]

This!

I even like small intimate groups. But 4 hours at a big party is too much. [/quote]

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