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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Look, I'm well aware that this is a cra8*y thing for him to do and that the easy thing would be to end things.

[b]But doing the easy thing is just going to put me back where I started 6 months ago.[/b] I'm looking to work on relationship skills so I can grow. It may well be that he doesn't want to work on anything, but I can only control me. So I'm not going to break up with someone based on assumptions of what's happening.

And, no, he's not with another woman, and, yes, he and many other people I know do camp alone. And the issue isn't that he's doing something without me - given what's going on with his life, he totally deserves a few days to decompress on his own and I totally support that. The issue is the lack of communication.  Which could come from a lack of respect, but also other things.[/quote]

You can't "make this work" alone. You pouring effort into this and accepting the unacceptable isn't going to do you any favors. You don't sound pleased with how he's treating you, and I can understand why. I wouldn't be happy with it either.

I disagree that you aren't "back where" you started 6 months ago. You tried something, it didn't work. You can learn something from this, like what amount of communication you need. Don't throw good money after bad by staying in this because you're scared of being alone or going back to the dating pool.

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