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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe contact the mother, if you must. I have a half sibling (different circumstances, but similar actions by my dad). Some of my siblings choose to contact her, which caused a rift between us. Ultimately, my siblings essentially ghosted half sibling in an attempt to fix things with our sibling group. Long story short: contact caused more pain than if they just left it alone.[/quote]

Sounds like you were opposed to contact and threw a snit when your full sibs went ahead anyway.[/quote]

I wasn't consulted or even given a heads up beforehand. It felt like a betrayal, honestly. They made a decision for me and I made my own decision when I was told what they did. I did not meet my half sibling. If they had discussed it with me, I would have discouraged them. They ultimately couldn't handle the new relationship and bailed. They hurt me, our half sister and each other. Some things are best left alone.[/quote]

This. My cousin recently discovered my half sibling on Ancestry and decided to contact them. The sibling was the product of an affair my father head. My father has been dead for 30 years. My cousin is an idiot and is holding on to her view that it was her right to throw a bomb into my immediate family. If she had the courtesy to let us know and allowed us to make our own decisions, we may have been able to salvage our relationship but now I’ll never speak to her again or the “new” sibling.[/quote]

Not your decision or right to decide. You are also wrong. And- no one needs permission to share information.  It's already out there. [/quote]

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