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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is so true!  I’ve always told people my divorce was due to my XH never putting his dishes in the dishwasher.  It was the last straw.  We both worked full time out of the house and all kid and house duties were left to me.  It didn’t start that way, he was a great partner and put forth an effort early in our marriage.  Once the kids came I just became the default everything.  He would sit on the couch on his computer while I’d be cleaning or mowing the lawn (no kidding).  He complained about how I did his laundry.  It finally dawned on me that he didn’t value me or my time, and the extra fee seconds it would have taken him to load the dishes were more important to him than my time.  I slowly lost respect for him and started to resent him.  Of course I didn’t realize any of this until after we split and I had some time to reflect.  Honestly it got to the point where he didn’t add any value to the relationship.  And my workload with the house actually became less when he moved out because I had one less person to take care of.[/quote]

You really trivialize your broken family this way? By telling people you put your children through that trauma because he wouldn't put the dishes in the dishwasher?

Do you think this is funny or something? Do you understand how people judge you when you put it that way?
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Response from the article, that you did not read, and do not understand:

[b]Of course, it wasn’t about the glass. “It felt to her like I just said, ‘[b]Not taking four seconds to put my glass in the dishwasher is more important to me than you are,[/b]’” he recalled.[/b]

I don't think PP gives a damn if you judge her.  That says more about you than it does about her or the ending of the marriage. [/quote]

Of course I judge her. She sounds like a henpecker of a wife who was unable to choose hills to die on, so she internalized laziness. She blew up her kids' life because of that. Projecting her own failings on her husband in such a flippant way demonstrates lack of internal perspective and the notion that such a sarcastic response is somehow apropos is further evidence of that. Typical shrew behavior.[/quote]

NP. Do us all a favor and STFU. [/quote]

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