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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just read the article and the article is aimed at husbands who are lazy man childs who are used to being picked up after by their moms and their enabling wives.  In an “equal partnership” this obviously always leads to issues – resentment, etc.  What was cute and endearing early on, often leads to years of being unchecked because it’s no big deal and it’s easy to just deal with it but when kids come, the ball game changes but by then, habits are entrenched and inability to deal with it effectively is tough to change.  So women, don’t marry lazy guys.[/quote]

The thing is that DH is NOT lazy.  He does amazing things at work, and he would never pull this stuff there.  At work, he is kind, trustworthy, and reliable.  He goes out of his way to make sure that things are done correctly and on time and make sure that everyone is in on the plan.  I know it.  I work for the same company and know many of his colleagues.  We met working together.

It's the dichotomy between the man that I know that he is and the man that he chooses to be around me that is the problem.  If I had chosen a lazy man-child, then that's on me.  But I chose this wonderful, industrious, hard-working guy, and for whatever reason, he just isn't that guy at home.  He doesn't apply problem solving skills to child rearing or chores.  He just pushes it all on me and gets angry when I push back.  So my options are to "disturb the marital peace" or to just do everything.  [/quote]

Or, sadly, the third option. Suck it up, but even after marital counselling, resent him like hell and have affairs.  Seriously.[/quote]

Pp here.  I can see that.  I hope that isn’t where we are headed.

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