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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is so true!  I’ve always told people my divorce was due to my XH never putting his dishes in the dishwasher.  It was the last straw.  We both worked full time out of the house and all kid and house duties were left to me.  It didn’t start that way, he was a great partner and put forth an effort early in our marriage.  Once the kids came I just became the default everything.  He would sit on the couch on his computer while I’d be cleaning or mowing the lawn (no kidding).  He complained about how I did his laundry.  It finally dawned on me that he didn’t value me or my time, and the extra fee seconds it would have taken him to load the dishes were more important to him than my time.  I slowly lost respect for him and started to resent him.  Of course I didn’t realize any of this until after we split and I had some time to reflect.  Honestly it got to the point where he didn’t add any value to the relationship.  And my workload with the house actually became less when he moved out because I had one less person to take care of.[/quote]

I have the opposite problem: I'm apparently married to the only woman in the world who never puts things in the dishwasher -- and she's modeling that behavior for our kids. Often, the sink is out of commission because it is occupied by some large tupperware or bowl.

Mentioning this is "nagging", but it never changes. Drives me crazy because it is 1) lazy, and 2) short sighted (kicking the can creates more work later), and 3) knowingly irritating to DH.

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Are you married to my DW?  Mine usually piles up dishes in the sink and not to mention her dirty clothes ends up stacking in mounds and when she does get around to doing laundry, it sits for days upon days of not folding.  So, guess who launders, folds and puts away her clothes?  this guy[/quote]

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