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[quote=Anonymous]I think the fear is common. I am 38 and my husband is 41. We have two healthy and wonderful (and high energy) kids and are having our 3rd in October. When I was pregnant with my second and now while pregnant with my third, I did have thoughts about “what if.....” what if there is a medical issue - what if I find out there are markers for physical or mental delays. What if there is an issue during birth. I very much want the second and third child but I do worry about the impact a what if would have.

It is not uncommon and totally real. Having science and data and anecdotes to show him it will be ok is fine. But maybe just acknowledging that it is common and ok to have these worries and you will deal with any issues Or surprises as a team might help.

Also a reminder - NIPT is only screening and looks for certain things. Quad screen Only does some things. Amino / CVS are more conclusive diagnostic (not sure if you did those) and 20 week scan only looks for seen abnormalities. You can have all things be “fine” and still have an issue. You can also have a kid born with a disability who lives a wonderful and great life.[/quote]

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