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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People engaged in competitive games, whether its on a field, in a ping pong room, tennis court or video arcade, heck even a Monopoly game in our house, get loud when the action gets exciting.

Don't attack the activity, but focus on the setting. He's playing an indoor game in a shared space, so he needs to recognize that, exciting as it may be, his game play will bleed into other people's space. His activities are important to him, but everyone else has needs too, and in  shared living quarters, everyone has to compromise a bit. So you discuss it, figure out where needs will conflict (bed time, movie watching, and WFH office hours), and [i]come up with workable solutions together (even though you likely already have the end game in mind, his input matters given his age).[/i] [/quote]

Thanks - and I did ask. Right now, he feels like any compromise/reduction of playing time is unfair - and hasn't yet come to me with proposed solutions.

I'm about to set him up in the garage, even though I know that ultimately doesn't send the right message/teach the right lesson.[/quote]

The goal isn’t reduction of game play but reduction of noise, right? You may be sending mixed messages: don’t be so loud, and those games are stupid anyway! If so, he is totally going to dog in and not give an inch.

I think the garage is a great compromise. Why not? You said the sound was the problem, and if he can’t control himself and act like a civilized family member he gets banished to the garage. You make your point, you get a quiet house. Win win, no? Unless your actual goal is to get your son to comply with your control, and not just to find a solution.[/quote]

No, I don't need him to comply with my control. I do want him to strengthen coping/empathetic/respect skills - none of which I see him exhibiting at the moment.

I feel like moving him to the garage just gives him what he wants - the ability to game nonstop, all day long, while he is in my house. I don't know if that works for me. Shouldn't there be some limits on this? [/quote]

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