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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn’t pitch in because that’s just a bandaid. Clearly mom shouldn’t be home alone and they need to realize that sooner rather than later. I realize no one wants to pay, but that’s what your parents saved for 30 years to be able to do. Then need to dip into her retirement. Is she getting social security?[/quote]

If your dad was retiring in 6 months, I'd be more on your side, OP, but this is going to get worse, likely quickly, not better, and this is not going to be tenable for 3 years. Someone who is so confused that they don't understand that the people in their house are home health aids is not long for being able to be alone for four hour stretches. Probably already shouldn't be. So what's the plan when that happens?

Meanwhile, your post conflates two things. You talk about rearranging your schedules so "we" can check in on mom, and the costs associated with this change. If your wife objects to the costs, assuming they're not crazy and you guys aren't broke, I can understand why you're frustrated. A small increase in child care costs, an extra five hours a week, is worth it to make sure your mother is taken care of. But your use of "we" is confusing - who do you expect to do the actual checking in on your mom? You or your wife? Presumably only one of you has to do this, and it should be you. It's your mom, NOT your wife's mom. If she's balking at taking on caregiver responsibilities herself, I am 100% team wife on this. 
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