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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]you mentioned your daughter is biracial. if i'm reading between the lines correctly, she has more typically "AA" hair vs. typically "white" hair. if this is the case, shaving her head will NOT solve the problem. it will grow back just as coarse/coily, and the shorter it is the LESS options she has.

Simple solution is to leave in conditioner (do not rinse it out), and do a simple ponytail with a braid. DO NOT comb through, just work through with your fingers. If her hair is not long enough or won't cooperate, you can do this in sections.

I am AA.

Does she have any AA friends or is she in touch with that side of the family? This might be an aunt/grandma/cousin conversation. Wishing you the best. I know this can be a tough time for all types of hair![/quote]

I know how to manage her hair. I am not AA, but I am not white either. My daughter’s hair type is 4B, while her sister is more 4A and mine is more 3C. So while nobody has the same hair and definitely nobody has what you are thinking about when you say “white hair”, I am pretty well versed in how to manage it and take very good care of it.
Now to those complaining my post lacked “joy” in my description of caring for her hair: My saying she has a lot of hair was a fact. She does. This has nothing to do with how much joy I take in taking care of her hair, because this post is not about me, it’s about her. How much I love her hair, how much I want her hair to be long and how much love I put into taking care of her hair (and her sister’s).

As I said, she is on the spectrum and she is a very practical, matter of fact person. Her hair is hot on her neck, so it bothers her. It also bothers her that it takes so long to wash it, detangle it and style it, because it does. Self care of all types are also a daily struggle, it’s not just the hair. FWIW, her sister has very long hair and loves her hair. She is younger, so who knows what she will do when she’s a teen, but so far she has no intentions on having short hair. [/quote]

Are you helping her with her hair?  I'm white with horribly frizzy, curly hair that's hard to manage.  I chemically relax my hair and have done keratin.  You need to help her.  This poster is correct that shorter hair is much harder to work with.  Have her wash it in the morning, use a good leave in conditioner and put it in a braid.  You can pull the braid up in a clip or put all the hair in a clip twisting it inside too.  There are lots of options beyond shaving it off.  If she likes it straight, spend the money on a good keratin treatment and blow it dry.  With keratin, it takes 1/2 the time to do and is amazing.[/quote]

So then what is the problem, let her shave it? It will grow back and she's not at school so what does it matter? Not seeing the problem here, as others have said this is the best time to expeiriment![/quote]

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