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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter came out last year as transgender, changed her name and uses "him, his" type pronouns... so I stopped using the dead name etc.

When I was growing up on Saturdays my dad would always wake me up and say "Son! Time to get to work!"
Then we would spend half the day cutting grass or doing some sort of maintenance/repair around the house.

While previously I was always happy for my transgender son (before he was a son) to do stuff with me (auto repair/maintenance, yard work, house repairs/maintenance) but it was always when and if he wanted to and the level of involvement wasn't necessarily a concern. That is not the conditions I experienced as a boy growing up because gutting grass or digging post holes, for example, was not optional.

My transgender son is spending a lot of time focusing on his transgenderism and not doing anything else. I've started to see him as effectively avoiding "girl"-type issues through being transgender but simultaneously avoiding the boy's plight which includes expectations of physical labor and performance. Its like he has found a way to spend all his time on social media and chatting on the phone with his friends by saying things like "I don't have the upper body strength for that..." when asked to participate in a male activity or "that triggers me" when asked to participate in things which might be considered a female activity.

I want to say "I don't care if you are transgender but you can't have it both ways!"

I know I'm likely to get slammed and someone is going to misunderstand the above statements and frame it like I'm some sort of overbearing football dad but that isn't want I'm talking about.

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I don't think there are "boy" tasks or "girl" tasks.  Give your child an option:  Do you want to cut the grass or work on laundry or help me trim bushes.  He gets to pick, but he DOES have to participate.  He's playing you[/quote]

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