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[quote=Anonymous]Some of the folks replying, including the OP, really don't "get" the issue.  No one is talking about sharing their child's personal history with everyone in the world, let alone talking about "rescuing" a waif.  The OP sadly does have some issues if she equates sharing something like the child the family adopted is HIV+ or rescued from a drug addict etc. is the same as sharing basic information about where the child is from, or that yes, she and her spouse adopted.

As for the WISE Up curriculum, yes, it is all about empowering children to handle very intrusive questions and be the custodians of their story, but that fact does not mean that talking about adoption in general is somehow private or something to be ashamed of.  There are sadly lots of APs out there who cannot talk about adoption -- probably because they view adoption as second best or have lingering fertility issues.  I personally know of cases where a family adopts transracially and then they actually say they don't intend to tell the child s/he was adopted.

WISE Up works best when the child already understands his/her history (at an age appropriate level and has grown up in a family where adoption is viewed positively)[/quote]

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