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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks, Guatemalan mom!  Can I get your thoughts on our situation (since this is an anonymous forum)?  When I was adopted, it was usually due to poverty reasons as well.  These days, most Korean babies are adopted b/c their birth parents are young and unmarried, which is very stigmatized in Korea. However, this was not the reason our daughter was placed for adoption- hers was more of a so-called "scandalous" situation- think along the lines of rape, incest, or an affair.

How do you suggest answering the what happened to her real parents question in our case?  [/quote]

Guatemala here.  A few thoughts:  1) that type of information truly is private information and I'd stick to the general "most babies are placed for adoption these days in Korea because the parents are young and unmarried.  You are under no obligation to share that type of info with others. That is the kind of information that is no one's business.  2) How confident are you that the paperwork is accurate?  As your daughter gets older and wants to know more about her adoption, this is something you'll need to think hard about how to share appropriately - I'd want to be confident that the paperwork indeed is accurate and this was the reason.

Truly sorry you have to struggle with that kind of difficult information.  Sending warm thoughts and hugs your way.[/quote]

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