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We have had a few discussions.  He says he feels lost in his role (my family was  over a lot enjoying the baby and taking care of it so we can rest before this quarantine business- almost everyday; I LOOOOOVE the help but even for me sometimes their presence was overbearing).  He admitted that he definitely didn’t bond with her immediately  and felt guilty, but couldn’t help what he felt...he said it’s hard for him to bond to something that he just met, whereas I got to bond with her for 9 months in my belly...it sucks to hear but I appreciate his honesty and I can’t blame him for feeling that way.  [/quote]

Sounds like he's a thoughtful, sensitive guy if he's communicating these feelings with you.

Other posters have given great advice re: giving him specific duties related to the baby.

Also, I realize this is hard with our current situation, but try and let him have dedicated alone time with the baby.  Did you ever babysit young kids when you were a teenager? There was nothing worse than the parent who wanted to stay and observe you with the kids at first instead of letting you be.  Some people aren't so natural with kids and need time not being observed.  He may feel awkward and will warm up to the baby if he doesn't feel like whatever he's doing/not doing is on display for you. [/quote]

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